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There is a certain embarrassment or even shame that is connected with sexual dysfunctions. No one would be ashamed to have, for example, a liver or heart dysfunction. One would be sad but not embarrassed and one would immediately ask a professional for help.
The most common sexual dysfunctions that men experience are: loss of desire, erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation and impotence. Some women experience: inhibited sexual desire, lack of orgasm, insufficient lubrification and painful intercourse. According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, in 2005 more than 105 million Americans have reported struggling with chronic sexual dysfunctions and many of them were not aware that there is help available. Diabetes can be one of the causes of sexual dysfunctions. Also some prescription medications for depression can have a negative effect on sexual desire.
There are many causes: some of them are related to hormone production, to blocks to the flow of energy, to shallow anxious breathing and unhealthy diet, just to mention a few. The hormonal production tends to diminish with age, and you could consult a good endocrinologist to check your hormonal production status. There is a lot of information available on the internet. It’s worth learning about it. There are also products available that are natural, organic, that very safely stimulate the body to increase production of the body’s natural growth hormones.
What you eat and drink is also important. There are certain simple recommendations you might want to observe most of the time: eat your biggest meal between 12 and 2 PM; eat fish vegetables often; keep your stomach light at night; drink lots of water during the day. Drinking a little alcohol can help lower inhibitions, while drinking too much can inhibit sexuality. If you want to learn more, read my article “Tantra and Nutrition” on my web site, www.1tantra.com.
Breathing shallowly and high in the chest is probably the most important single cause of lack of energy and anxiety during lovemaking. Through the years, we became habituated to breathe shallow breaths, often filling only the higher part of our chest where the lungs are narrow and smaller. The body brings the venous blood to the lungs to be purified and the largest veins are located on the bottom of the lungs. Venous blood contains carbon dioxide and other poisonous gases that need to be exchanged with oxygen and thus transformed into vital arterial blood that nourished and strengthens the body.
To be fully present and energetic lovers, we need to learn to breathe to facilitate this exchange as fully as possible. Tantra teaches different breaths for different purposes. Some of the most used techniques are to increase energy and to retain energy without going over the top. However, many of the sexual dysfunctions are due to emotional issues, entrenchment into set habits, undelivered communications and resentments that could build a cold wall between couples and unconscious issues coming to the surface.
A good Tantric Healer can help you look at those issues with increased energy and guide you to use this powerful Tantric tools to open up blocks and take care of unfinished issues that limit the joy of our lovemaking. Lots of issues have been repressed and feeling rationalized instead of felt.
When emotions are not expressed, blocks to the flow of energy form along the pathway where erotic energy would otherwise flow to the whole body. When blocks are present your vitality is lower and sex becomes more a “squeeze and burst” event, at best a letting go of tension instead of an exchange to deepen your love for each other.
Some men have trained themselves with techniques to “making her come” the fastest way possible so that they can “come” thus missing the opportunity for emotional connection and really fulfilling lovemaking. This way of having sex gives leaves you with a sense of immediate relief but robs you of the opportunity to use this powerful energy for deep heart connection and nurturing. Thus lovers are depriving themselves of deeper and longer pleasure that could enliven all the cells of the body. Making love could be the greatest way to “make love” grow and to live a longer, happier life.
Deep breathing helps bring emotions to the surface. “E-motion” means energy in motion. When emotions are felt sexual energy can reach higher levels riding higher and wider waives sending into ecstatic lovemaking that is really fulfilling. Sex without emotions leaves people tired, empty and sometimes sad. We instinctively know there is more to it.
Deep breathing is also a key to avoiding anxiety about performance. When your whole body tingles with aliveness and when you hear our lover breathe equally deeply, perhaps even making a sound on each exhalation, you are less prone to thinking about performance and more about riding the waves of pleasure a little longer.
Tantra offers the view that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience and as such we have infinite potential for expressing love. By adding the spiritual dimension into the lovemaking it elevates it to ecstasy and adds opens doors for infinite creativity.
As spiritual beings we have infinite potential available and therefore boredom is no longer a danger.
Male sexual Dysfunctions
Male sexual dysfunctions is a topic that many people are reluctant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are curable, so it is important to share your problems with your partner and doctor. A sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem that prevents the man from experiencing satisfaction from sexual activity.
Male sexual dysfunctions can be attributed to physical problems such as diabetes, heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism or drug abuse. Along with these work pressure and anxiety, marital or relationship differences and depression can also jeopardise your sexual health.
The most widespread sexual dysfunctions in men are ejaculation dysfunctions, erectile dysfunction and loss of sexual desire and these are prevalent in the aged people though men of all ages are susceptible to such dysfunctions.
The ejaculation dysfunctions can be classified as; Premature or rapid ejaculation, delayed or retarded ejaculation and retrograde ejaculation. In premature ejaculation the usual problem is that a man will climax before or during soon after the penetration. Delayed ejaculation is the inability to ejaculate or a long delay before ejaculation. Retrograde ejaculation befalls when the sperm is forced back into the bladder and does not flow out of the penis.
In some cases, premature and delayed ejaculation are caused by psychological factors such as absence of attraction for a partner, a painful and distressing experience in the past. Premature ejaculation, the most prevalent form of sexual dysfunctions in men, is generally attributable to jitters over how well one will perform during intercourse. However, such symptoms can also be traced to anti-depressants and rampant use of other drugs.Retrograde ejaculation is prevalent in diabetic males. This generally occurs due to problems with the nerves in the bladder and the bladder neck that allow the sperm to flow back into the bladder.
Erectile dysfunction is also known as impotency. It is the continual inability to achieve or maintain full erection required to complete your sexual intercourse satisfactorily. There are two main causes of erectile dysfunctions: physical and psychological. Experts agree that the majority of cases are physical but sometimes many men with such disorders start to feel nervous or low. These feelings can easily aggravate the symptoms of erectile dysfunctions. The few causes of erectile dysfunction include diseases affecting blood flow, nerve disorders; stress, depression, and performance anxiety; and injury to the penis.
Loss of sexual desire or libido, refers to a decrease your interest for sex, causing concern to you and your partner. You rarely feel like having sex. It has been associated with low levels of testosterone, anxiety and depression; medical illnesses, such as diabetes and high blood pressure; and relationship difficulties.
This article is first in a series of articles that deals with male and female sexual problems.